I'm a grown up, but still...
Planning! We all do it to some degree, some to much, some to little, and some for the unforeseen. The last ones are not that common, In fact you will be lucky to observe one, usually they are hiding out at whatever bunker they call home. I think at some point we fall into all the categories, sometimes even on the same time. It's the campingtrips you meticulessly planned for, that was shot down by insane weather, or people canceling on you, or someone close to you having a heartattac or any of a million strange things that can be waiting around every corner in time. It's also the legendary "perfect night out", the one you buy new clothes for, and plan in detail, just to end up getting way to drunk, and then waking up in the morning, fully clothed and covered in mud after a fall induced (you assume) by "broken heal syndrome" on your shaky way home. With few memories of what has transpired, and possibly topped off with a stranger next to you. The next time you go out, it's "out for a few drinks", and you end up having a blast.
Because when it comes down to it you cannot plan life. John Lennon knew this, he did not know how horrible ironically right he wold be upon uttering the words "Life is what happens when you're busy making plans", but thats another story, he's still right.
But we plan, because we have to, friends of me joke about the fact that my tagline for a long time has been, "no plan", but we all know it's a philosopy, not a practiced in any extreme degree, just something to remember a few things.
One; you will be let down, often things don't go the way you planned for them to go. Two; plan to much and you take freedom and the joy of random happiness out of your life alltogether. Three; sometimes to much planning can make you rigid, desensitive to the world around you and the needs of others. All good things to keep in mind as one goes about ones days.
I do of course plan a lot anyways, I plan my days, and my weeks, but beyond that? Not so much. Planning too far ahead is something I try my best to avoid, the farther ahead you plan, the more moving pieces have to fall into place for things to go the way you want them to go. Planning years ahead, planning for jobs, homes, marrige, cars, golden retrivers, picket fences and children, vacations you will take years from now? Am I the only one whom sees this as really really frightening? Of course there is the things I want to do in life, I'm not living my life totally one day at a time, there's places I want to see and things I want to do, but I don't set dates. Wait until the oppurtunity presents it, then grab it and squize every last drop of fun out of it, that's the way to go. I was listening to a friend of me the other day, she was speaking about her plans. "Me and my boyfriend has been toghether for so and so long, we have to start thinking about children now, because I want them before I reach this and this age, and with such and such interwalls, and then there's his job, and my job, and we are going on vacation then and then so I can't be pregnant by then, and my inlaws thinks this is a good idea, and where are we spending christmas next year..." Help! I'm serious, help me understand this someone! Because I can not for the life of me understand this, how can anyone go from beeing a funloving and impulsive individual, through two years in a relationship, and end up at this point?! It must be true that love makes people go crazy, it sure seems that way.
Or maybe it's me that's crazy, for not understanding, or wanting this. Maybe I'm the one out of sync, with my vague dreams of white beaches, warm, lazy days with someone like me, that likes(or maybe even loves) me, and wants the same as me. Peace, fun, simplicity, random burst of happiness and a life that flows it's own ways. A life where you're not always entirely sure what country you will wake up in the next morning, because you allow yourself to listen to that little voice in the back of your head that says "Hey, that sound like fun, let's do that!" The voice I think adulthood is supposed to kill, the voice most people seem to one day just stop hearing. I don't think it dissappears, infact I think if you, reading this, would close you're eyes, lean back a bit, breathe calmly a few times, and think "What do I want to do right now?" you will hear a faint answer. Same if you ask "What do I want to do in my life?"
So why not try it? Try getting away from the "I should" path, and wander a bit on the "I want to" trail, it's usually worth it, and it will probably make you happier in the long run.
Miramuffin says: Oh how philosophical I'm feeling today... Sorry, I will return to my normal self any day now, but still, this kind of colum might be a bit more meaningful than my normal angry rantings on how the world is horrible and the people worse. Well, I was never that negative to begin with was I? Guess not, I do like to see the bright sides of life, even if the world can sometimes be a very dark place. So sit back and listen to that little voice, and while you're at it, what would the ten year old version of you have said to you if you had met(in some dimension far stranger than ours)? Are you happy? is a very good question, all though it must be treated with caution, it makes quite a few of us give in and cry if asked at the wrong/right point in time.
Go out and live your life, it's yours, and never let anyone tell you otherwise. Love life, have fun, and feel free to go a little crazy once in a while, it can be very refreshing. Good luck;)
Because when it comes down to it you cannot plan life. John Lennon knew this, he did not know how horrible ironically right he wold be upon uttering the words "Life is what happens when you're busy making plans", but thats another story, he's still right.
But we plan, because we have to, friends of me joke about the fact that my tagline for a long time has been, "no plan", but we all know it's a philosopy, not a practiced in any extreme degree, just something to remember a few things.
One; you will be let down, often things don't go the way you planned for them to go. Two; plan to much and you take freedom and the joy of random happiness out of your life alltogether. Three; sometimes to much planning can make you rigid, desensitive to the world around you and the needs of others. All good things to keep in mind as one goes about ones days.
I do of course plan a lot anyways, I plan my days, and my weeks, but beyond that? Not so much. Planning too far ahead is something I try my best to avoid, the farther ahead you plan, the more moving pieces have to fall into place for things to go the way you want them to go. Planning years ahead, planning for jobs, homes, marrige, cars, golden retrivers, picket fences and children, vacations you will take years from now? Am I the only one whom sees this as really really frightening? Of course there is the things I want to do in life, I'm not living my life totally one day at a time, there's places I want to see and things I want to do, but I don't set dates. Wait until the oppurtunity presents it, then grab it and squize every last drop of fun out of it, that's the way to go. I was listening to a friend of me the other day, she was speaking about her plans. "Me and my boyfriend has been toghether for so and so long, we have to start thinking about children now, because I want them before I reach this and this age, and with such and such interwalls, and then there's his job, and my job, and we are going on vacation then and then so I can't be pregnant by then, and my inlaws thinks this is a good idea, and where are we spending christmas next year..." Help! I'm serious, help me understand this someone! Because I can not for the life of me understand this, how can anyone go from beeing a funloving and impulsive individual, through two years in a relationship, and end up at this point?! It must be true that love makes people go crazy, it sure seems that way.
Or maybe it's me that's crazy, for not understanding, or wanting this. Maybe I'm the one out of sync, with my vague dreams of white beaches, warm, lazy days with someone like me, that likes(or maybe even loves) me, and wants the same as me. Peace, fun, simplicity, random burst of happiness and a life that flows it's own ways. A life where you're not always entirely sure what country you will wake up in the next morning, because you allow yourself to listen to that little voice in the back of your head that says "Hey, that sound like fun, let's do that!" The voice I think adulthood is supposed to kill, the voice most people seem to one day just stop hearing. I don't think it dissappears, infact I think if you, reading this, would close you're eyes, lean back a bit, breathe calmly a few times, and think "What do I want to do right now?" you will hear a faint answer. Same if you ask "What do I want to do in my life?"
So why not try it? Try getting away from the "I should" path, and wander a bit on the "I want to" trail, it's usually worth it, and it will probably make you happier in the long run.
Miramuffin says: Oh how philosophical I'm feeling today... Sorry, I will return to my normal self any day now, but still, this kind of colum might be a bit more meaningful than my normal angry rantings on how the world is horrible and the people worse. Well, I was never that negative to begin with was I? Guess not, I do like to see the bright sides of life, even if the world can sometimes be a very dark place. So sit back and listen to that little voice, and while you're at it, what would the ten year old version of you have said to you if you had met(in some dimension far stranger than ours)? Are you happy? is a very good question, all though it must be treated with caution, it makes quite a few of us give in and cry if asked at the wrong/right point in time.
Go out and live your life, it's yours, and never let anyone tell you otherwise. Love life, have fun, and feel free to go a little crazy once in a while, it can be very refreshing. Good luck;)
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